Have you ever notice how many different categories we have for our relationships these days? Those of you who have set yourself up with a page on the online social networking site Facebook might have discovered that you can indicate your “relationship status” on your Facebook page, There are lots of different categories to choose from.
Of course you can select the typical categories of “single” or “married”, but beyond that you can identify yourself as “in a relationship”, engaged, widowed, or even the more progressive “open relationship”. And those whose love lives tend to the more turbulent can identify their status as “it's complicated”.
These are the relationship choices available on Facebook, but in today's world they are by no means exhaustive; especially when you begin to add in the generally accepted category of “preference”. Modern people will unabashedly and unashamedly identify themselves according to “preference” - GLBT is a common label being proposed these days – with a cultural attempt to make “mainstream” lifestyles that only a few years ago were consider deviant. Our relationships have certainly taken on a whole new dimension.
So this is how we have come to answer these questions within the culture. As Christians we are “in the culture but not of it”, “in the world but not of it”. So, the question is, how do we approach the issue? How do we answer the question?
Being Christians, we are not answerable to the culture. What the rest of the World decides to do has no bearing on what the Church does; on what the church thinks and how the church behaves. As Christians, as members of The Holy Christian Church, as baptized believers in Christ, we have been redeemed by Christ and we have been purchased by Him to be set apart from the world. Therefore as citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven we are answerable first and foremost to our King. The Church is answerable to Christ. Therefore as members of Christ's Church, we hold ourselves to the standard of what we find in the Word of God.
So what is your relationship status? The world would offer you categories of gay or straight or even bi. The world would have you think of yourself as single, or committed, or casual, or open. Scripture doesn't acknowledge these categories. Scripture talks about the people of God as married and as single. See yourself as married to your spouse, to your husband or to your wife. If you are married, your Christian duty is to be faithful. If you are single, your duty is to be pure.
Much less complicated, is it not? Not so many categories to choose from. Not so many options to confuse the issue. It is much more simple and straight forward.
Now, to be sure, scripture does acknowledge that there are different ways to be single. There are those who are single because they are not attached to a spouse, there are those who are engaged, (scripture calls it betrothed). There are those who are widowed. The scriptural requirement for how you relate to one another as a sexual being is always the same – be chaste. Be pure. Avoid sexual temptations.
Scripture also discusses what it means to be married. We received clear instruction on this in our text last week. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. Wives honor your husbands. If you read elsewhere in scripture, God's requirement for husbands and wives is that they be faithful to each other... because God is faithful to us. God does not give himself to His church and then remove the gift. God is faithful. Husbands and wives should therefore be faithful to each other.
As far as these categories of preference – do you prefer men or women or both. Scripture only and always calls this sin. Romans 1 very clearly states the following:
Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, [25] because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.
[26] For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; [27] and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.
Romans 1:24-27 (ESV)
In spite of Scriptures clear teaching on this issue, Christians still struggle. We still struggle with our sexuality. We still struggle with how to relate to one another as sexual beings. We are faced with all kinds of sexual temptations. Everywhere we turn, whether it be in books or magazines or on TV or in the movies, on the internet, in common every day advertizements, everything is saturated with sex. We always fight against it. We are always pulled in by it.
With all this sexual temptation, with all this temptation to legitimize what the Scripture clearly identifies as sin, it is helpful for us to remember what Jesus teaches us in our text.
Jesus says, “20 And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. 21 For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, 22 coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
We always want to think about sexual sins in terms of what we have or have not done. I have had this thought, but I have not carried through on it. Therfore I am not guilty. I have seen this movie but I didn't see that one, therefore I am not guilty. I have done this action but I haven't done that one, therefore I am not guilty.
We want to think of sexual or sinful pollution like it is something that is out in the world.
That's what the Pharisees were doing. That's what Jesus was teaching. The pharisees would go to the marketplace and treat the experience like they were your bleached white Sunday best making their way through a minefield of mud puddles. They avoided contact with anything and anyone that might make them unclean. And then, just in case, when they went home, before they ate, the did a quick little hand washing ceremony to get the sinner off the outside of their hands – like the sinner was outside, on the surface, like it came from someone or something else.
Jesus says “No. Not so.” This sinner isn't out there in the world around you. You are not pure as the driven snow trying stay clean. You are polluted swimming in pollution. You are dirt swimming with the dirty. We are a part of the problem. All those sins live in our own hearts. They don't stick to us from the outside we vomit them up from the inside. They are in our hearts and we can't get rid of them.
A few years ago, Christians would have quickly pointed out that homosexuality is sinful. These days Christians are not even so sure. “Didn't God make them that way?” We ask. “Shouldn't we love and accept everyone?” We ask. “It's not like they are hurting anyone.” We tell ourselves.
We allow ourselves to be convinced by these arguments. They sound legitimate, don't they? They do, but we buy into them because we have already used them to justify ourselves. I am only thinking, doing, saying what everyone else does. I can't help it, it's who I am. “Boys will be boys”, “I'm only human.” And besides, “I'm not hurting anyone...”
My fellow Christians we are in no position to condemn. For in condemning others we only condemn ourselves. We are all guilty. Every single one of us in one way or another bear this same guilt. Our hearts are filled with sin. What can we do but confess.
So what category are you? Married, single, widowed, divorced, in a relationship, or on the rebound. Scripture would see you as married, or single. If you are married scripture would have you to be faithful to your spouse in thought word and deed. IF you are not scripture would have you be chaste and pure in thought word and deed.
We are neither of those things. We are neither faithful nor are we pure. Regardless of what we have done with our bodies we are guilty in our hearts. But God is faithful. God is pure. In spite of the fact that we are sinful, God in not. God is perfect, completely and fully without sin. And God has not condemned us.
Remember the account in the Gospel of John of the woman who was caught in the sin of adultery. She was brought before Jesus, judged for her sin by her community. They were ready to execute judgment and stone her for her actions. Knowing the sin in her heart but also in theirs, Jesus said to the crowd let him who is without sin throw the first stone. Each one was guilty. Each one had sinned in his heart. Every last one was guilty, every last one except for Jesus. Jesus was chaste. Jesus was pure. So Jesus remained.
He said to the woman, “Is no one left to condemn you?” “No” came the reply. “Then neither do I condemn you.” said Jesus. “Go and sin no more.”
Go and sin no more! This is the command of Jesus. You who have come with an adulterous and sinful heart, you who have come stained with sin, Go. Sin no more.
Go and sin no more because your sin has been removed.
Jesus has taken your sin from you. If we are the polluted swimming in the pollution Jesus is the pure. As Jesus comes, his touch takes from us our sin and takes it into himself. He exhanges our pollution for his purity. The sin that has arisen from within, the sin that lives in your heart. The sin that you have explained away and have justified in yourself has been washed away.
Jesus, your Lord and your savior has had mercy on you. He has not condemned your sin as you have deserved. Not even the sin in your heart. Instead Jesus has taken your heart, your corrupted and sin filled heart and he has carried it with him to the cross. Your heart became Jesus' heart and Jesus died with your heart on his back. Your punishment has been served. You are set free. Go.
Go. But Sin no more. Jesus did not say, go and sin all you want. Jesus did not say Go and do what feels right. Jesus did not say Go and do what comes natural. Jesus said go and sin no more.
Yes the sin is in your heart. Yes boy are boys and girls are girls and boys and girls experience all kinds of temptations from all kinds of desires that have been born out of the sin that lives is their hearts. But, boys and girls, men and women, you have been set free from that sin. Jesus has released you from it. You are no longer its slave. Sin no more.
The rest of the world is quick to sin and quick to justify. The rest of the world is comfortable in their skin and pleased to live a life that God condemns. But not you. You have been bought and paid for. You have been set free from your sin by the blood of Jesus. Go and sin no more.
Amen.